Bridal Paradigm is a term used to describe the analogy of Jesus as the Bridegroom and the Church as His bride. The bridal paradigm is to be viewed as the relationship between Jesus as the Bridegroom King and the Church (individuals and corporately) as His bridal partner. It illuminates His great desire for us, and our response towards Him. This allegory is seen all throughout the Bible and has been preached by most throughout Church history. God energizes our spirits with passion for Him when we understand His devotion and commitment to us as seen in the cross. The Bridegroom message includes the revelation of Jesus’ emotions for us. Let’s take a look at some of Jesus’ emotions towards His Church.
Jesus the Bridegroom is filled with tender mercy.
He is gentle with our weakness. While we often confuse rebellion with immaturity, God does not. God is angry at rebellion, but He has a heart of tenderness towards sincere believers that seek to obey Him. He enjoys us even in our weakness (see Ps. 18:19). He knows that in our sin and weakness His tenderness makes us run to Him instead of away from Him.
Jesus the Bridegroom has a thrilled and happy heart.
While on earth, Jesus had more gladness than any man in history (see Heb. 1:9). Most believers throughout Church history have thought that God is mad or sad the majority of the time that He relates to us. However, Jesus is very glad when He relates to us, even in our weakness. In Isaiah 62:4, God tells us that His church is His Hephzibah.
But you will be called Hephzibah…for the Lord will take delight in you (Isaiah 62:4 NIV).
This Hebrew word translates to “my delight is in her.” God is always thrilled with us! He is always bragging about you to all of heaven. God has the amazing ability to see us as the finished bride. That’s you! He is fully aware of our failures, shortcomings, and sin. But this is not His focus. His focus is our righteousness and wholeness in the blood of Christ. Therefore, God is always happy with us!
Jesus the Bridegroom has fiery affections.
He has a burning desire and longing for His people. We are Jesus’ great reward. He looks at us, His created ones, with fiery eyes of passion. Because of this great reality, we are drawn to His fiery affections.
As the Father loved me, I also have loved you; abide in My love (John 15:9 NKJV).
Jesus the Bridegroom is zealous.
Then the angel who was speaking to me said, “Proclaim this word: This is what the LORD Almighty says: ‘I am very jealous for Jerusalem and Zion… (Zech.1:14 NIV)
Jesus the Bridegroom possesses indescribable beauty.
He fascinates our hearts. He becomes all that we desire. He causes us to gaze on His beauty. He draws us to mediate on Him all of our days.
One thing have I asked of the Lord…to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord (Psalm 27:4 NIV).
At its core, the bridal paradigm is John 3:16: “For God so loved the World that He gave his only begotten Son” (NKJV).
Jesus is overwhelmed emotionally when we look upon Him. His heart is ravished by just one look from us (see Song of Sol. 1:15). Even when we were dead in our trespasses, He made us alive together with Christ, and it is by grace we have been saved. We need to study the emotions of God.
The word paradigm describes a pattern upon which we arrive at a decision. Our paradigms color every experience we encounter in life. In other words, what we think, what we feel, and what we express are derived from a paradigm.
The bridal paradigm also illuminates how we feel toward Him. There is great fruit when we declare who He is and how much He delights in us.
Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world (John 17:24 NIV).
But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved (Ephesians 2:4-5 NIV).
He delivered me because he delighted in me (Psalms 18:9 NKJV).
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame (Song of Solomon 8:6 NIV).
Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful (Song of Solomon 1:15 NIV).
The bridal paradigm is a picture of how Jesus feels about us. The bridal paradigm is one way to tell the glorious story of how we as human beings were created by an all-sovereign, all–powerful, and all-wise God. We were established in the beautiful Garden of Eden to be in constant and eternal relationship with our creator. He owes us nothing and needs nothing from us.
Yet, out of His great compassion and love, God freed us from the law of sin and death so that we could be with Him in eternity, unto His glory. He freed us because He loved us. He freed us because He greatly desired us. He is not only coming back as a King to reign, a Judge to bring justice and right wrongs, but also as a Bridegroom to reveal His great love and kindness (see Eph 2:7).
The bridal paradigm is the story of how He died for our sins, how He needed to conquer death by rising from the grave, how He went to prepare a place for us (see John 14:3), and when He is coming back for us (see Rev. 19:6-8). We are His glory (see John 17:10), and in us He has wealth and riches (see Eph. 1:18).
From the book, “Remember Who You Are“.